The New Year is officially here and you’re now mid-way through the work week. How are those resolutions working out for you?
To be honest, these days, I am Switzerland when it comes to resolutions. On one hand, I realize the value of wanting to change your life, accomplish great things, and start the New Year off in a great way. I totally applaud that. On the other hand, if you really want to make a change in your life, holding off until January 1st isn’t necessarily the way to go about it. What’s wrong with December 18th? Or February 23rd?
What I see happening most often is that people make a resolution – for the purpose of this blog, let’s say, GET ORGANIZED! – and then a week into it, when papers are a piled up or the closet is a little jacked up, people lose ALL HOPE, and declare TOTAL FAILURE because they futzed up their resolution. Well, that’s no good.
So Alaia, does that mean you didn’t make any resolutions this year? That’s correct, I did not. Personally, I find that resolutions are a little too broad to have any real impact on me – lose weight, improve my diet, drink more water, blah blah blah. Just saying that makes me bored. So, what DID I do? Well, I took stock of 2011 and decided how I wanted to approach the year ahead. I decided what I wanted to do – specific things versus general wishes. Here’s my partial list:
- Improve my photography skills (this has specific sub-actions like take a photography class, shoot weekly, etc )
- Take a dance class or two
- Read A LOT more books (I’m thinking one a week, but haven’t decided)
- Have an adventure (I don’t know what it is yet)
- Try new things (my goal is 52.)
- Have more dinner parties (had two last year, which means I just need 3 to achieve this)
- Finish my family tree project
- Go on a retreat/take a personal sabbatical
- Get rid of HALF of my possessions
- Wear dresses more often
- Launch my semi-secret new project.
- Start making sweet potato pies again (dinner parties = good time to do this)
Different strokes for different folks! Some people I know swear by resolutions. And if that works for them, I think it’s great! Here are my tips for staying on track when it comes to resolutions:
Make SMART resolutions. I know you’re smart and savvy, but let’s review the acronym again:
Specific – make it simple yet significant
Measureable – how will you manage this goal?
Attainable – is your goal actionable and achievable?
Relevant – Are you being realistic? Does this goal fit your life right now?
Timely/Time-bound – when do you want to achieve this goal?
Instead of : “Get organized,” try “I plan to organize my files by January 31st and my physical space by February 15th, so that by March 1st my entire office is organized.” Yes, it’s longer, but it is now clear what you actually intend to do.
Set milestones. This is incredibly important for big, long term things like getting organized, losing weight, or quitting smoking. For example, I don’t drink a lot of water, so it is honestly just ridiculous to think that I can go from 0 to 8 glasses of water a day just like that. I know myself too well. But I can start off with a glass or bottle of water a day. Totally doable. Then after a month, maybe my goal is 3 a day, and so on.
Be accountable. Have a buddy to check in with. Post your goals on Facebook or Twitter. Join a community of people with similar goals. Ultimately, your biggest motivator should be yourself BUT when other people know what you’re up to, you have some skin in the game and you’re much more likely to press forward. Um, yes, this is why my friends keep asking about the new project I am launching – but you see, it worked! I told a few select people what I want to develop, got them interested, and now they want to know how it’s progressing. And see how I just listed them above for the world to see? Now YOU know what I want to accomplish as well. Put up or shut up!
With that said – what do you plan to do this year? What do you want to experience? What do you want to change? Think of some concrete things you’d like to do, or create some resolutions that you refine by making them SMART, setting milestones, and creating accountability for yourself.
All the best for 2012!
Alaia
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